What do I really want?

Ah the question of the ages, what do we really want? Can you imagine searching for a relationship never knowing what you're looking for? Do you find yourself being in an incomplete relationship?

We have all been asked at some point "what kind of person are you looking for?" Many of us have about 4 or five characteristics that they say are important. Women usually state emotional and characteristic features, while men choose more physical and social features "lady in the streets, but freak in the..."

More often than not, you will find people who list all the things they DON'T want in a relationship. This is very dangerous and explained in the article linked.

Ask yourself, what are the 5 most important characteristics your partner must have? Two things typically happen; 1. You will find it very difficult to name 5 things, or 2. You will have so much listed you can't narrow it down to just 5.

If you can't find 5, you probably have not really thought to clarify this part of your life. If clarity is the destination, without it, you're on a road to nowhere. You accept anything that comes your way and believe poor relationships are lessons and experiences to appreciate the perfect one that will magically come one day because you were good this year and Santa left your lover in a big-O-stocking by the fireplace.

If you have a list longer than big mama's sari you have sealed your fate to endless unfulfilled relationships, on the road to the crabby old miser with 50 cats complaining about the neighborhood kids.

By now you probably thinking great so I am pretty much Screwed! Well my friends, there is hope.

It is important to set values and standards for the person you're looking for, and it is important to have a top 5. List out all the positive things you would appreciate in a person. Sort through the list for the top 5 characteristics you can't live without. Now, here is the catch, you must become these top 5 characteristics you listed. Ah did I ruin your hopes, now that you got to do some work? You didn't think this was a simple solution did you? All great things are worth working for people!

With the evolution of consciousness in humanity, universal laws are uncovered to help us grow and find tools to limitless human potential. With the mass publicity of "the Secret" on Oprah, Larry King live, and pretty much every talk show available, the Law of attraction was reintroduced to the people of our time. This ancient law states that like attracts like.

If you become your Top 5 list, you will attract people that share similar characteristics. Like minded people are drawn together, just look at your friends, your best friend's most likely share a similar belief system. That bond is so strong due to the value standards you share.

Finding powerful, passionate, true love is easy as the same effortless path to friendship. We have been conditioned to believe relationships are difficult, and destined to fail with all the evidence of our society. The minority of successful relationships go against our society's pattern of insanity "repeating the same things expecting a different result."

When you raise your standards and begin to be who you want, the law of reciprocity fills a wondrous relationship into your life. You get what you give! Reap what you sow! Every action has an equal and opposite reaction, meaning it comes back in your direction equally. You yell what you think you get?

In the famous words of Digital underground " if you kiss me then I'll kiss you back, But if you hit me then I'll hit you back, Smack me and I'll smack you back, If you scratch me here I'll scratch you there, Aww, put lotion on me" Great philosophy to live by let's try more kisses unless the later tickles your fancy.

Be the perfect lover and own your destiny.