Why do I always end up in a bad relationship?

I am sure you have all had the conversation with your friends about how horrible their relationship is. Bet you have a friend that seems to always attract the same type of person. How about the person you know that is a sure bet to find disaster in dating?

It is funny when we ask people what kind of person they are looking for. Most people, stuck in the loop of insanity, (repeating the same thing expecting a different result) will most often list all the things they don't want in a person.

You know the friend who claims I don't want someone who nags, I don't want someone who is jealous, he can't be possessive, she can't talk to much, etc.

This system of language to oneself is very dangerous. What they don't realize is the pattern of communication with them and others actually attract that particular person in their lives over and over and over again.

This is the Science people!

There is a section of our brain called the RAS (reticular activating system) that filters the things we notice in our day to day life. It is evident when we buy a new outfit or focus on buying a car, and all of a sudden you see it everywhere. Did they just magically appear? Did someone tap into my brain and steal my ideas? Is the tooth fairy gonna leave me money under my pillow? Of course not, well maybe the tooth fairy, of course the items were always there. Our RAS now allows us to see what we are focusing on.

Imagine our brain works like Google. If you enter No football what are the 79,800,000 pages going to give you? That's right 79,800,000 pages of football. Our subconscious works the same way. The words we say create an image that delivers focus to our RAS, which will show us and draw to us that we see in our mind. What if I said don't think of your ass, Don't think of your ASS! Stop thinking about your ASS….. Still see your ASS, ya freak? That is the magic my friends.

So realize, when you state all the things you don't want in your lover, what is the image you're creating in your mind? And worse who are you attracting into your life, over and over and over again?

Change your paradigm, write a list of all the things you want in a lover, (click this article and get the guidelines for this exercise.) Create the beautiful image of your perfect lover and own your destiny.